I’ve been worried, for weeks now, that the time would come when Hong Bin and Se Dong would reach the point where they would both feel the need to walk away from each other and this week it happened. As painful as it was to watch my two favorite characters separate, it provided some moments for serious growth so I managed to keep myself together… Mostly.
I will never understand why OTPs in dramas spend so much time getting together when they only get to spend half a second happy together. I’m convinced it’s Drama Land law that as soon as a couple gets together, something has to happen to pull them apart and it’s nothing, if not painful, to watch. At least in the case of Hong Bin and Se Dong, their separation only lasted a whopping two episodes but even now I’m wondering if there’s going to be more to come between these two before the end. But more on that later… Right now let’s just focus on why both Se Dong and Hong Bin decided backing out of their relationship would be the best thing for them.
When it comes to Se Dong, I can’t really understand her need to run away because let’s face it, Hong Bin had nothing to do with her father’s death. Sure, Jang Won was a jerk, as he ignored Se Dong’s pleas to save her father, but that’s an issue for Se Dong to work out with Jang Won, not his son. This is another one of those Drama Land scenarios that I will never be able to understand. Just because a parent screwed up somewhere in the past, that doesn’t mean you can take out your feelings of anger/frustration/resentment/whatever on the person you supposedly love. Where’s the understanding and grace that are supposed to be the foundation of any good relationship? Se Dong is so quick to love everyone, why would she back away from the one man she loves most? At least she never really ran away, she just stepped back long enough to consider the situation and I applaud the way she handled things, even if they were a bit frustrating. She did manage to confront Jang Won about the way he treated her father and she also admitted that she was partially to blame for the way things worked out with her dad. (Though really, I don’t see why she needs to feel guilty for pursuing her education during her father’s crisis. You can’t put your life on hold, just because awful things happen. Trust me on this one, I know what I’m talking about.) She also came to realize just how much she loves Hong Bin which is a good thing because it turns out, she needed that love to deal with his shenanigans this week.
Speaking of… Hong Bin had a lot of ups and downs this week and he made a whole lot of progress on his quest to be a better person but he always has to let his temper get the better of him and sadly, Se Dong is always the one to suffer for it. At least Hong Bin realizes this and he’s trying to find a way to keep Se Dong safe as he deals with his own demons but I wasn’t happy when he decided to give Se Dong the cold shoulder and tell her he didn’t need her anymore. He knows, better than anyone, just how much he needs Se Dong and though I can understand his feelings of guilt and his desire to keep Se Dong safe, he has to know that he’s so much better off with her than without her. He needs Se Dong more than he needs air to breathe and he knows that the only way he’ll ever be able to deal with his condition is to keep her as close to him as possible.
I think this is why I’m having such a hard time dealing with Tae Hee’s imminent return, because I don’t want to see Hong Bin running towards a woman who will ultimately leave him in worse shape than he already is. Not that I really think Hong Bin will run to Tae Hee, now that he has Se Dong, but he is going to be curious and he’s going to need to see if what Hong Joo said is true. If he does find Tae Hee alive and well, this is going to cause so many problems for so many people and I dread what’s coming in the upcoming episodes because I don’t want to see all of my beloved characters hurt. It breaks my heart to think of what Chang will think once he finds out his mom’s alive. And I can’t even begin to imagine what this is going to do to Hong Bin and Se Dong. Ugh! Why can’t dead Drama Land characters ever stay dead? It would make life so much easier for the rest of us!
Still, there’s a lot more for Se Dong and Hong Bin to deal with than the return of a dead first love. Se Dong has finally seen Hong Bin in his rather prickly state and she’s not at all afraid of him. (Hooray!) Not that I was actually worried about her running away from the metal porcupine… I was more worried that she would pity Hong Bin and begin to feel obligated to take care of him because he was a pitiful soul, rather than being with him because she loved him. With Se Dong coming to understand her feelings for Hong Bin before she saw his hideous side, she can approach him out of love and that makes me infinitely happy. To be with Hong Bin because you love him is so much better than being with him because you pity him and I think that is going to make all the difference in the world, especially when things get tough. (And yes, I’m pretty sure things are only going to get harder for these two from here on out. It’s another one of those stupid Drama Land laws… *sigh*)
So tell me, what did you think of this week’s happenings? Were you frustrated by Se Dong and Hong Bin’s momentary separation? Were you upset that Hong Joo decided now was the perfect time to tell Hong Bin his first love might still be alive? What did you think of Madame Yoon this week? I know I didn’t say much about her this week but she was still flipping scary! What did you think of the conversation between Se Dong and Jang Won? Do you think Jang Won is softening up a bit after talking to Se Dong or not so much? Do you think Tae Hee is actually alive and if she is, what is this going to mean for Hong Bin, Se Dong, Chang and pretty much everyone else? You know I love hearing your thoughts on all of this and more so be sure to let me know what you’re thinking by leaving me a comment below!
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I hope that Tae Hee is really dead. I hate the thought of bringing her back into the mix. Besides, she can’t be the nice person (and pathetic victim) we all thought she was if she was willing to abandon her mom with dementia and get young son. Something is screwy here.
As for Hong Bin and Se Dong – I was very frustrated when he ditched her, even if he thought it was for her own good. He’s been telling her that she needs to trust him and talk things out, but then HE was the one to back away from her when she was attempting to do just that. She was trying to talk out and think through her situation. I cried a little when he realized what the handkerchief meant. Their destinies have been intertwined for years. She has carried his heart in her pocket since their first meeting. I’m such a sap!!
I also teared up when Hong Bin called Chang’s name and Chang catapults into his arms. Those two are so darn cute.
I’ll wait anxiously for news of Tae Hee, and hope for some happy times for Se Dong, Hong Bin and Chang.
Once again, I find myself agreeing with everything you say! Tae Hee really needs to be dead because if she’s not, I’m going to flip so many tables. The amount of crap we’re going to have to endure if that woman turns up alive is ridiculous and I don’t even want to imagine what that’s going to do to Hong Bin and Chang. Those poor babies! They’ve been through enough already and I really don’t want them to have to suffer any more than they already have! On a more positive note, I too love watching the relationship between Hong Bin and Chang grow. They’re such an adorable duo and I want nothing but the best for them. They deserve the chance to live together, happily ever after… Preferably with Se Dong. Can I plead to the drama gods once again and beg that Tae Hee stay dead?
I’m in the minority, I didn’t mind their brief separation and Hong Bin giving her the cold shoulder, it’s what she needed in order to sort out her feelings. He specifically told her that he and Chang weren’t pitiful and he didn’t want her love if it came with pity, he wanted her to love him because he’s a good man and NOT because she felt sorry for him. Remember, Seung Hwan said she has a habit of doing this because of her past and he’s experienced her pity, it doesn’t feel good and he told Hong Bin to never look like that in front of Se Dong. Hong Bin told her he didn’t need her for that very reason, why would he want a girlfriend to be with him if all she does is feel sorry for him? He also didn’t want that for Chang, he didn’t want her to feel obligated to hang out with him because he ran off, she to feel bad and then act on that guilt. She needs to be there because she wants to and I am proud of Hong Bin for saying that.
Tae Hee coming back just screws up everything these two have worked so hard to secure and I am NOT looking forward to that. What happens if Se Dong finds out and attempts to back herself out of the picture so Chang can have his mother? That I won’t agree with because the once-thought-to-be-dead moth suddenly returning doesn’t give her the right to get her position back as the mother.
Those are also my concerns with Tae Hee coming back. I don’t want to see Se Dong backing out of this relationship just because she thinks Chang needs to be with his mother and Hong Bin needs to be with his first love. There’s a season for everything and Tae Hee has had her chance. If she comes back now, after all that Chang and Hong Bin have been through to be able to let her go, I will not be happy. I don’t care how wonderful of a person Tae Hee may try to appear, if you ditch your kid and make the entire world believe you’re dead, you’d better just stay dead because no one is going to want you to come back. I know I don’t!
I can also see where you’re coming from with Hong Bin backing off and I can appreciate his efforts to not appear pitiful in Se Dong’s eyes. It’s true that it would suck to have Se Dong with Hong Bin just because she pities him so I’m glad Hong Bin made a point of making sure she didn’t see him that way. I just don’t believe that’s why he backed away from her after she got hurt by his blades this second time. I’m convinced that in that moment, he ran away because he was afraid of someday killing her and that scared him. He’s painfully aware of how many times Se Dong has been hurt because of him and he doesn’t want her to suffer anymore physical injuries and I can understand that. It just hurt me to imagine Hong Bin trying to deal with his condition on his own when he’s got a perfectly lovely solution standing right in front of him. He should know that the only way he’s going to be able to deal with his condition is if he’s got Se Dong by his side and she’s more than willing to remain there, so why not let her? I’m assuming he changed his mind after their last hug but who knows, now that Tae Hee seems to be re-entering the picture. Again, why does she have to come back? She’s going to mess everything up and that makes me so angry! Grrrr!